The New Year

From the desk of The Modern Day Cindi: With the dawn of 2016 approaching and so many expectations for the new year, I find myself randomly humming Auld Lang Syne (that is the New Year’s Eve song – to which I don’t think anyone actually knows the words). Anywho, growing up as a New Yorker, for ages as a little girl my family would gather around the television and anxiously anticipate the countdown until the new year and of course the BALL DROPPING. As New Yorkers, we dare not stand outside in the frigid air in Times Square with the inevitable mix of tourist and thrill seekers who descend upon the infamous locale to see the clock strike midnight live. For me, the excitement was less about the ball dropping and more about that ONE SIP of champagne my cousins and I were allowed to have. That sip of champagne was everything! It gave me life…so much so I anxiously awaited the coming of the next year to do the same.
As the instrumental of the New Year’s Eve song continues to chime in my mind, I think about how that same little girl has evolved into the women affectionately known as The Modern Day Cindi… I no longer hold on to the magic moment of the clock striking 12 at midnight. Nor does my whole life speed by just to get to the next sip the following year. Instead, I catalogue each day as one worthy of me holding on to… I have traded my sip of champagne for a daily cup of green tea or a decaf latte and and I make my moments count. Not only that, I assess my progress and growth frequently during the year and I look back on my evolution as I hit different milestones. My personal development and style have been marked in the beginning by seasons where I was really focused and too corporate thus excelling in the job, but my creativity was dying along with my style and fashion sense.  
Now in my entrepreneurial freedom, I no longer fearfully make choices about how to present myself for my day and how much color is “appropriate” to wear. Somewhere between last January and now my creativity in business and style bloomed simultaneously. With it, I made a vow to myself to do better, be better, and live well! My objective is to stay true to myself. My motivation is to never again lose the thing that separates me from others- my creative sense of who I am and how I stylishly leave my mark on the world. Now, that may seem a little selfish, but it was born from a place where my goals live. And well, what is a personal goal if it isn’t selfish and/or a bit self-fulfilling? So with that, I have compiled a list of things, some of which are oldies and essential nonetheless and others are new additions and must-haves for the journey. These items (although are not the exhaustive list) are the things that I am joyfully moving forward with in 2016. 

To start, I am gladly relinquishing the reigns as the woman that I know with most pairs of jeans in her closet. I am abandoning my hair experimenting phase. And, I can honestly say someone somewhere will be happy that the shoes I only wore twice are on their feet and not mine. 

But I will be journeying into the new year with…

#1 Patience

I’ll pair a knee length (or longer) open sweater or cape, distressed denim rolled slightly at the ankle with an edgy bootie or funky sneaker (my preference is Adidas)

#2 Passion

Red and Purple Accessories 

From scarfs, to hats, to jeweled gems such as earrings, bracelets, and rings these slight touches add depth to your look and are subtle enough to be worn as everyday pieces 

#3 Determination and Focus

With a pair of black leather or denim skinnies and a collarless button white blouse… It’s easy to keep it business chic for midday or late meetings or traveling on the go

#4 The Right Goals & Vision

This should be packed away in a cute cross body convertible clutch purse or backpack. The backpack is a functional yet fashionable go-to! (Thank You Steve Madden for turning the school yard must have into one of my adult favorites)

And last but definitely not least…

#5 Confidence

And this is always worn best with kind words and a smile
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The Other Side of ‘I Do’

From the Desk of The Modern Day Cindi, welcome to the Other Side of ‘I Do’the land that lies beyond the wedding day.  The place where strengths are magnified and weaknesses are minimized…the place where dreams are realized and victories are inevitable. But WAIT!!! This is not at all what was expected-this land is FOREIGN- somehow the journey detoured on the other side of ‘I Do’. So when did things change…What is my role… What exactly am I supposed to do on the other side of ‘I DO? I’m so glad you asked…
The transformation from fiancé to wife has proven to be a challenge for many brides. The characteristics of being a wife extend beyond perusing magazines, creating registries, choosing venues, and picking flower arrangements. Evolving from a role with few responsibilities to one of many has not only benefits, but also barriers. Because of this, I am often asked, “how did you prepare to be a wife; how was the transition into marriage?” Honestly, the answer I provide is probably not the answer that’s sought- it is not shrouded in glimmer, painted in gold, nor does it gleam like the iridescence of a diamond. The answer I typically give leads back to the principles that my faith is grounded in; rooted in the premise that you have to be groomed to be a wife; that you must be prepared for the undertaking of the covenant.  Now that may seem particularly odd because you really cannot be prepared for EVERYTHING. And even still, there are many women that believe that being prepared to be a wife includes the aesthetics (hair, makeup, and clothing), the accomplishments (degrees, jobs, and homes), and the physique (the size of your bottom compared to your top).
While those things may seem essential, they actually do not provide the foundational elements that a woman needs to be a wife; especially the way God originally intended. So where do we learn the fundamentals; and, how do we cultivate them? In scripture, we find great examples in the story of Ruth, Esther, and the Proverbs 31 woman. Esther was prepared to encounter her king.  Even after she was within the good graces of the King as Queen, she remembered her call, and kept her peace despite the social climate.  Another great example is in the story of Ruth, where her obedience to specific instructions provided her the ability to be found by her mate. And of course, the Proverbs 31 woman, through her character, her husband found favor with the elders.
In these stories, it can be suggested that the treasures found in wives outweigh aesthetics, accomplishments, and yes even physiques! Consequently, the significance of a wife has been diminished or forgotten, assigning less value and honor to this role. Despite this, the bible tells us that a wife is:
1)      A helper (Gen. 2:18)
2)      A conduit of favor (Prov. 18:22)
3)      A symbol of honor and royalty(Prov. 12: 24)
4)      A source of wisdom & good judgment (Prov. 19:14)
5)      A priceless example of integrity (Prov. 31:10)
Therefore, dwelling in the  land on the  Other Side of ‘I Do’ is a wife who is helpful, supportive, noble, honest, prudent and wise.  And although these traits may have been planted and possibly nurtured while single, out of necessity they should be cultivated and fortified during marriage. Moreover, when you enter the other side of ‘I DO,’ remember there is purpose, promise, pleasure and power! So ask yourself, did you commit to God’s standard of a wife or the fairytale of a bride? To Be Continued…

Submission: Emotionally Naked

From the Desk of the Modern Day Cindi: Inspired by the vulnerability of my husband and the safety and trust he finds in me as his wife the following words change EVERYTHING!

“Laying in her lap conveying my fears and pain, trusting her with the most emotionally naked parts of me.”

Emotionally Naked………WOW! When I first read it, I was speechless, honored, and humbled. That one sentence, said so much with just a few words. What I inferred and what was implied is undoubtedly the key that unlocks so many doors in my heart, especially my ability to give to him- equally vulnerable, emotionally naked, and SUBMISSIVE.

Now it would be totally improper to discuss marriage and not quickly stroll down the valley of that highly misinterpreted, fearfully misunderstood and consistently misapplied subject of SUBMISSION. Submission has turned into a foul word. Wives are taught that they must do it and husbands are taught to expect it, neither of which are untrue or errant (Ephesians 5:22). However, some women have been berated with it which has fostered fear and disdain and some men have used it as a battle axe and possibly a guilt mechanism. The issue carries so much weight that many have ran from the potential of a healthy marriage because of this stigma.

Submission was ordained! It should be a pillar of, and a bridge to, fruitful marriages giving deference to the hierarchy within the covenant of husband and wife. In some instances, what was purposed to create a path to freedom and trust, has equaled emotional confinement; what was designed to build homes has unintentionally broken them; and what was created to belt out harmony under God, has now hit mute notes and fell on deaf ears. Oooh Submission! I would classify it as a hurdle-not an impossible feat- that requires strengthening, flexibility, training, fearlessness and trust in the process. Submission is not slavery nor should it leave anyone voiceless, but because so much has been given away prematurely before marriage and wagered in matters of the heart before covenant is entered, some, if not all of our ability to operate in faith and total obedience to God’s plan is stifled and even lost. So how can women reach peace in submission and how can men partner to support God’s plan? My answer: There has to be Equality in vulnerability e.g. emotional nakedness.

Many women say that they want to be loved so hard that it makes them submit, in other words the love is so apparent that the negative stigma of submission is neither present nor relevant.
In Ephesians 5:21-28 (The Message) Out of respect for Christ, be courteously reverent to one another.
22-24 Wives, understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ. The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing…25-28 Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty.
Submission should not be dreaded or hated… it should be welcomed as not a loss of control, but an opportunity that creates anew, it is not about bowing to a person but yielding control to the Lord as your leader. It is in this willing service, that your heart and mind are at peace which permits the barriers to vulnerability to come down allowing you to be “Emotionally Naked.”

“K” is for Kira: Identity IDENTIFIED

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“K” is for Kira

Kira(Kee+ra) is a female given name of ancient origin and multiple etymological derivations.
Origins can be traced back to Ancient Greece and Japan to mean “RULER”
The girl’s name Kira or Kyra is pronounced /ˈkɪərə/ KEER-ə.

1) Kira is a form of the male name Kiran, pronounced /ˈkɪərən/ KEER-ən. Kiran is of Hindi and Sanskrit origin, meaning “beam of light”.
2) From Sanskrit, it evolved to the Persian and Egyptian word Ki-Ra for “like Ra, the sun”
3) In Ancient Greek, its meaning became “lady” (A short form of kyria, κυρία, the Greek title of respect for a woman.)
4) The word Sire is a modern variant of Kira for addressing royalty in western European languages, so it can also be used as a female form of Cyril which means “Masterful”.
5) In Slavonic, Kira means “strong woman”.
6) Kira (Ки́ра): Feminine form of Russian Kir, meaning “ruler.” This also can translate to “Leader of the people,” “One the people look to,” or “beloved”.
7) Kira is another Russian derivative for the name Kyra, descended from Kyros, the Greek form of the Persian name Kûrush, which may mean “far sighted” or may be related to the Persian word khur “sun”.
8) The name is sometimes associated with Greek kyrios “lord”. (This was the name of several kings of Persia, including Cyrus the Great, who conquered Babylon. He is famous in the Old Testament for freeing the captive Jews and allowing them to return to Israel.)
9) Kira is common in Japan, as both given name and family name. In Japanese, “Kira kira” also means glittery or shiny.
10) Kira is one of several Anglicized forms of the Celtic name Ciara, which in Gaelic means dark; dark hair, dark eyes.

I am Kira “K” Monique, but you can call me “Cindi”

Allow me to RE-introduce Myself…

KiraMonique, The Modern-Day Cindi

Author ● Executive ● Image Consultant ● Life Coach● Fashionista

And the Lord answered me and said, write the visions and make it plain upon tables, that he may run that read it. For the vision is for an appointed time, but at the end it shall speak and not lie; though it may tarry, wait for it; because it will surely come, it will not tarry. Habakkuk 2:2, 3

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Background

KiraMonique, a native New Yorker, was born in the ‘Big Apple’ but raised in Houston, Texas. “Kira” pronounced kee +ra translated means ‘The Light or Sun’. Since early on, she was known by most as a smart, young woman with a bright future. Very ambitious and a goal seeker, Kira graduated college at the age of 20 and began Law School that same year. By the age of 23, she was a licensed attorney practicing law in the state of Texas.

Her career development began in 2000, working in consulting and promotions. Shortly thereafter, she began working in University Administration while maintaining a successful legal practice in Houston, Texas. After seven years of law practice, this former model & musician, decided to return to her roots retracing her steps to find a niche that was specifically designed for her.

Remembering her childhood dreams, Kira always wanted to create greatness and become a leader in something bigger than herself; thus, she sought God for direction on how that could become a reality. Hence, combining her Love of God, her Love of Self, and the Love for Others, she converged into a new but familiar arena, Life Imaging. Kira’s primary focus is to not only build people but build businesses; to not only coach individuals, but develop their ideas. Together with her gifts of her creativity and ingenuity, and her desire to build kingdom legacies, the conglomerate K. Monique Consulting was birthed.

The goal of K. Monique is to showcase within different arenas that living in the love of Christ is full, comes without apologies, and reaps great benefits and rewards. In essence, Christians can be successful in corporate and middle America, in entertainment, and sports without compromising their values or watering-down their beliefs.

The first question that you may be faced with when meeting her is, ‘have you found your IT?’ If you ask her to define “IT,” the response would be simply: Your IT is why you are here on earth. “IT is your passion, your gifts, your goals.” In her own words, “It separates the workers from the wishers, it distinguishes long-term goals from short-term aspirations, and it sets the blueprint for your project and/or your life.”

With that said, make no mistake about it, Kira is the truth. She has vision, she is focused, and undoubtedly, she is on her way to becoming the most sought after commodity in the business. She can upgrade the best of them and I must say—she looks good doing it! One day she says she was asked by someone was she a supermodel or an attorney—her response-“I’ll let you decide…”

Delving more into her background, here are a few questions that have been posed:

What are your hobbies?

“Traveling; Learning about Different Cultures; Reading; Cooking (I love a good home-cooked meal…skip a restaurant); Exercise–my body is a temple; Anything Adventurous i.e. camping, skiing, hiking; BUT, Fashion is definitely my Passion.”

What have people said about you?

“I’m an extremely lovable and creative, sometimes reserved, but very witty. I’m a knowledge seeker and I tend to operate very cool. I’m fashion forward, and I move to the beat of a special drum. Also, I heard that I exude joy and peace. Now, that’s a plus!”

What she says about herself?

“I have a child of the city spirit with country girl values. My sense of humor is ridiculous; I love to laugh…but oddly enough I prefer quietness. Some may know me as the over-achiever, my business-associates call me ‘the girl wonder’ because I was really young when I began my journey. BUT, I think I am just a regular girl, or more like a ‘Modern-Day Cindi’. My whole life is in faith and with that I reside in a ‘belief’ zone. God has blessed me immensely; I know it could be anyone but God chose me, so I stay humble and pay it forward. Anything else there is to know about me I try to show through my actions.”

What have you learned on your journey?

Time waits for no man. Everything has a season. Obedience truly is better than sacrifice. Laughter is the best medicine. Life is for the living. Words cannot ever express how you truly feel…actions have to be involved. I am not who I used to be and even still, I am not yet what I shall be. I have grown exponentially. My matriculation has been deep, defining, and detailed. And at the end of every phase of renovation, each dig and every level of excavation presented jewels in my life; treasures that God has allowed me to discover. I am faith-filled, joyful, and gracious. I love the life that has been given to me. And the crazy thing about it all…this is just the beginning.

What’s next for you?

“Everything; world domination if I can pull it off. Just kidding! But seriously, I am looking forward to living in all that God has promised me and my family…so that could mean anything and everything positive is next. Honestly, I feel there is so much untapped, talent and potential in me that God has not even allowed to come forth yet. So for now, I will start with what I know which is creative concepts, fashion, business development, and story-telling (writing). Stay tuned…”